Dedicated to a Friend

I know that times are rough. Even sleep is painful because when you wake up, you have to remind yourself all over again that someone so precious is now gone, forever. No one knows your pain because they are not you. Trust me, if given a choice, all of us hope to be distributed a fraction of your pain so you can be relieved of this heart-throb. But no, we can't. We cannot do anything to make you feel better except for lending you a shoulder to cry on, a few words of encouragement, simple gestures that hopefully cheers you up a little and give you hugs so you know you can always lean on us. And I'm sorry I belong to the category of only being to offer words of encouragement and not be physically there.

What we do is so limited, after-all, only you can walk yourself out of this turmoil. We can lend you a hand but you have to get up on your own feet and fight this battle.

Everyone understands that life is cycle. 生老病死不是我们可以控制的。But sometimes it doesn't happen the way we expect it to be, sometimes it catches us by surprise. We often take things for granted and forget that good health doesn't always stay for long. It may not seem fair and you probably ask why this has to happen to you. It maybe cliche to say this I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Even if you may not know the reason now, you will eventually find out. There is definitely a flip side to things.

Meanwhile, 'stay strong' and 'cheer up' should've been told to you a hundred times. I absolutely agree that you have to stay strong, but it is also okay to grief, it is okay to cry. We are all humans, we succumb to emotions. Let it out so you'll feel better. There's nothing wrong with crying. It doesn't mean that you're weak. It's just a milestone to finding your stronger self. Just remember that: 哭有时 笑有时. After all these tears, you need to tell yourself to hold yourself together because life moves on. You should know better than anyone that she wants the best for you and wants you to live a happy life. When the time is here, tidy up your emotions and move on to a new chapter.

We all can vouch for how good a person she was and she is definitely free from suffering and pain now. At the end of this post, just remember 2 things:

1. She definitely wants you to lead a happy life.
2. You always have us to fall back on, until and beyond the day you are ready to start a new chapter of your life.






Caroline.

(I didn't mention your name here because I dk if you wanna be more private about it. But you know this is for you...)


RIP.